Dear Diary, It’s November and my parts are beginning to integrate. It’s taken so long. I’ve dropped, hidden, smashed, longed, cried and destroyed these bits, these useless raw pieces. And as I evolve, my gray elder hairs come in, she wants me to see value in her. All of her. She demands I accept her unconditionally. And I do love her deeply… but I still carry our shame, heavy lonely shame. So I ignore her... and that’s when she began to write me love letters… pleading with me

I believe that the deep want to feel chosen is engrained in our humanness. At birth we NEED to be wanted, fed, held, loved, seen, attuned to, checked on, soothed, adored and needed. We must attach and be attached to in order to survive. My heart swells knowing that many of us did not have this need met. And it’s complicated I know. I try and remember our caregivers may have not known how to care for us, perhaps from unawareness, a lack of support, overwhelm, or even their own

Everyone shows up to Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy differently. And along the Opening-Up journey and having a ‘many-loves-lifestyle’ — some feel deeply hurt by the whole experience. ENM is often a new experience for people. This can be exhilarating and complicated as we learn a new way to be intimate. Love is vulnerable — therefore ENM and our Partners have deep access to our most tender parts. And this is where the fantasy of what ENM “could be” — intersects with the re

Ahhhhh yes, there it is. That feeling. It's jealousy. It’s a feeling like any other. But some emotions are more uncomfortable than others...

Many believe our intimate relationships should be as easy and as spicy as when we first met and as a Couples / Relationship Therapist — this is far from the truth. Our relationships need consistent (daily / weekly) maintenance to avoid tension build-up, miscommunication, hurt feelings being unaddressed and unmet needs being missed. We must regularly tend to our connection so it can continue to grow with closeness and love which can help to spill over into the bedroom. Yum We

You must begin the journey to re-learn that YOU ARE ENOUGH because # 1 you deserve to remember, it’s your f*cking birth right. # 2 it...

Shame is a prison. It keeps us from processing what’s happened and what there is to learn within Self and between others. Secrets,...

As a Relationships Therapist I have observed that we often want the other person to change (been there, done that). When we are...

Angel loves, I'm so happy to share this resource guide. This was written in honor of Pride and your mental health... for my favorite...

Oh me oh my it can absolutely be wonderful to see people loving on your lovers! However, if your relationship is feeling neglected,...

People pleasing or fawning is a tender trait to be handled with care and curiosity. iIt can happen on such a low-key level we may not...

Aieeeeee but it hurts… but I want it…. but why does my heart bleed? Sometimes we’re just going too fast loves. Here’s some love &...

What I love about sex therapy is the initial assessment. It brings into context all that impacts our precious bodies, brains and souls....

Ruminating thoughts in polyamory (looping anxiety inducing thoughts that feel like they won’t stop) can feel sticky and unsettling. It’s...

Polyamory can rattle us the way monogamy never did! It can shake our presumed secure attachment and even morph it into an insecure one...

Our culture’s sense of urgency and perfectionism has seeped its dirty little hands into our hearts, minds and relationships and I won’t...

A love letter to the people pleaser inside us... Do you know the people pleaser / fawner / I’ll do what you want / please love me / do...

Humans are precious. Our hearts are tender and when we are vulnerable we open ourselves to both feelings of love and pain. And this is...

So much love to give, so little time. Even adding one extra relationship can feel overwhelming to an already busy life. When I even think...

Polyamory is a relationship structure that goes beyond just two people. It is based on consent meaning everyone knows, everyone agrees...