Dear Diary, It’s November and my parts are beginning to integrate. It’s taken so long. I’ve dropped, hidden, smashed, longed, cried and destroyed these bits, these useless raw pieces. And as I evolve, my gray elder hairs come in, she wants me to see value in her. All of her. She demands I accept her unconditionally. And I do love her deeply… but I still carry our shame, heavy lonely shame. So I ignore her... and that’s when she began to write me love letters… pleading with me

I believe that the deep want to feel chosen is engrained in our humanness. At birth we NEED to be wanted, fed, held, loved, seen, attuned to, checked on, soothed, adored and needed. We must attach and be attached to in order to survive. My heart swells knowing that many of us did not have this need met. And it’s complicated I know. I try and remember our caregivers may have not known how to care for us, perhaps from unawareness, a lack of support, overwhelm, or even their own

You must begin the journey to re-learn that YOU ARE ENOUGH because # 1 you deserve to remember, it’s your f*cking birth right. # 2 it...

Shame is a prison. It keeps us from processing what’s happened and what there is to learn within Self and between others. Secrets,...

As a Relationships Therapist I have observed that we often want the other person to change (been there, done that). When we are...

Angel loves, I'm so happy to share this resource guide. This was written in honor of Pride and your mental health... for my favorite...

A love letter to the people pleaser inside us... Do you know the people pleaser / fawner / I’ll do what you want / please love me / do...

New year, New me. Nah. Let’s release that pressure and instead manifest that pleasure. What will you do that feels good, delicious,...

The Ancestors do not play. Energy, spirituality, religion, a higher power, God/Goddess, Jesus, Allah, Life Force, the one you call...

Aieeee… because this life keeps changing though. I have evolved thru infinite chrysalis phases into a butterfly. I always think - “Oh...

On your healing journey, you may find you do not recognize your Self. You are in between times, stages, chapters, endings and beginnings....

Our brains and bodies can perform miraculous feats to help us not feel pain and danger, physical or emotional. Sometimes we feel...

I often hear people say “I don’t want to seem too needy” as if it were shameful to have needs. We are born with needs that MUST be met in...

When I first heard of ‘Self-Abandonment’ I felt deeply sad. Even in my moments of not knowing / remembering my worth, I don’t like the...

Do you know your own worth and value? How did you learn this and who taught you? So many of us have no idea of our value or we find...

We aren’t taught or encouraged to be with our Self. To befriend or even want to make love to our Self. But we are taught to prioritize...

Sometimes we can deeply or unknowingly miss parts of our Selves… parts that no longer have space in our life to exist… or express...

Having authority over our bodies and our pleasure is an act of radical liberation. When we were born we didn’t judge our bodies. They...