Do You Know Your Worth and Value?
- Fox Eros
- Feb 25, 2023
- 2 min read
Do you know your own worth and value? How did you learn this and who taught you? So many of us have no idea of our value or we find reasons to diminish it. What if no one ever taught you your worth?
Our primary caregiver(s) are the first people who we attach ourselves to for survival, nurturing, connection and attunement. We must have our needs met in order to survive and those go beyond being fed. We also need emotional connection and love for our brains to learn who we are.
For some of us, our first caregivers may have been distant, harmful or had their own burdens of trauma that didn’t allow for them to love us as we needed to be loved. Or perhaps messages from school growing up, or your job, family, or community misinformed you, missed you and harmed you — and you were left questioning. For some — this is when they made the decision that they were’t enough.
I have learned & witnessed that we can re-build our worth and value. There is hope in knowing that we can re-learn who we are and that we have always been enough. ♥ It’s a skill we can develop like any other skill — and when we practice, ask for support and seek out community — we can certainly begin to find our identity and value. It’s already in you, it may continue to evolve — and sometimes we just need help remembering. We got you boo.
Here is your first reminder — you have always been enough. Money, accomplishments, things, harmful beauty standards and social rewards do not determine your value. You are simply born with it from Day 1 … and it’s enough. You are enough. I see you.
Fox M., Therapist (AMFT)
