Needy and Being In Need.
- Fox Eros
- Feb 25, 2023
- 2 min read
I often hear people say “I don’t want to seem too needy” as if it were shameful to have needs. We are born with needs that MUST be met in order to survive, develop, grow and become. And we STILL have needs as adults. We are always still becoming.
Sometimes we can be disconnected from our needs because maybe they’ve never been met, or you were shamed for being in need so you cut off that part of your Self, or you’ve lost touch with who you ARE forgetting you are allowed to have needs.
Your needs are important. Say that again! Some needs you may be able to meet on your own. Some are negotiable, while others are not. Only you can tell us which are which, and this may be a slow path of discovery for you. Take care of your Self and seek out support as you open to your in need Self. I see your bravery.
Let's recap it:
1. One of our core needs is to feel seen, heard, valued & accepted
2. Can you name your core needs and embrace them? Can you share your needs with those you care about? Can you ask those you care about what their needs are?
3. Although vulnerable, the sharing of needs is an intimacy that can heal us as love can. You are worthy of having needs, and having them met.
It may take time for you to name your feelings and needs. You may need to move slow in this vulnerability, but please do share with us along the way so your Lover(s), friends, community and job know how to make space for you and be with you as you unfold. We adore where you’re at, and we cannot wait to see you become.
Love your love, loves.
If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share.
Fox M., Therapist (AMFT)