What I love about sex therapy is the initial assessment. It brings into context all that impacts our precious bodies, brains and souls. Questions about willingness, libido, pain, arousal, orgasm and satisfaction are asked with compassion and curiosity. Once some of the more urgent issues are ruled out or addressed, we dive into any problem areas that no longer align for you.
Your pleasure & desire practice begin within you. You own this part of Self, you are born with it and it is yours to cherish and rebuild if needed. Sometimes… and often along the way, we split from this this part, or this part becomes lost, sad, ashamed, fearful, disconnected, shut down…
Toxic social narratives about who owns our pleasure, upbringing that pressures us into rigid forms of expressing and connecting to our innate erotic behaviors, and any harm we’ve been caused - can begin to erase our erotic Self into an underground secretive place. I miss her.
We must attend to these parts, love them endlessly, protect them and speak directly to them. Ask this part, what do you need? What would make you feel safe? What moment harmed you and how can I make it right for you? I will save you from that moment and forever protect you from here on out. Your life without your pleasure is unfair. I want this healing for you.
Pleasure begins within Self and it moves beyond the sensual body. We learn her language, drink her in unconditionally, tell her everything she’s wanted to hear, and then we touch her, massage her, resurrect my love back to existence and slowly she remembers her immense authority over this life. She’s so powerful. My goodness I love her. I love you.
Fox Eros, M.A., Therapist (AMFT)
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