In theory polyamory can feel like this beautiful shiny liberating and magical place to land and be loved. Yessss I love that! And also in reality we can hit a few speed bumps or discover deeply difficult emotions because we are tender humans beings with feelings, vulnerabilities and nervous systems. Not to mention we are brought up in a compulsory monogamous culture meaning poly can be quite explosive for our brains & hearts at first.
If you’re exploring polyamory for the first time, be gentle with your Self and Lover(s), go slow, practice transparency (if everyone agrees they want it and to what level) and know that just because poly is difficult doesn’t mean it’s not for you or that you’re doing it wrong. And you can also pause, take breaks and be fluid by switching back and forth from monogamy to polyamory. You get to write the script with your Lover(s) based on what works for you, your heart & mind.
Wishing you all the loves and many loves,
Fox M., Therapist (AMFT)