I felt this buzzing excitement the other day at the thought of my Lover being pursued and touched by someone else and I wanted to do something lush to him, or for him, because of this feeling. Perhaps it was a competitive-based evolutionary behavior…who knows… but I needed to name this feeling because I liked it. A LOT. (Disclaimer, the thought of my Lover being with someone else can also cause jealous feelings and insecurity in me, I am human and jealousy is one of the many emotions I may experience).
Back to the titillating fun excited feeling… I came up with the term ‘poly-aroused’ because I was specifically aroused and motivated to take a pleasurable action by the polyamorous nature of my desire.
If you have yet to experience poly-arousal… it doesn’t mean you are, or are not, polyamorous. It’s just one human experience that may occur and if it does, perhaps you could lean into it and see where the inspiration takes you and your Lover(s).
And if you find your self in a poly-aroused state, check in with your Lover on how they wish to be adorned, desired, fawned over or loved. Yessss CONSENT! Consent - so juicy.
Wish you all the loves and many loves,
Fox Eros, M.A., Therapist (AMFT)